Childhood Behaviour: Rough and Tumble Play

Sep 14, 2022 | Childhood, Play

Believe it or not, rough and tumble play is actually ok!  Research has shown it is necessary for social awareness, compassion, and cooperation.

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  • Children are more body-based – this is how they learn about their world
  • Other benefits include:
    • Improves motor skills
    • Allows for emotional expression, energy release and tension reduction
    • Teaches social awareness and boundaries
    • Stress hormones go down; Stimulates endorphins and oxytocin (bonding)

So what is the difference between rough and tumble play versus  fighting? Rough and tumble play will always have:

  • Willing participants
  • The children are having fun
  • The children keep returning to the rough and tumble play

If one of the children is not having fun, not a willing participant and there is intention to hurt, then this is not rough and tumble play.

How to support safe rough and tumble play:

  • Ensure that the area is free from objects that can cause injury
  • Is the area large enough to support this type of play?
  • Set rules for the rough and tumble play such as “no hitting” and “no biting”

Written by Denise Stacey

Since childhood, Denise has always been known to be a problem solver and helper. Her lived and professional experiences are a mosaic of diverse roles and relationships, including being a second-generation Canadian, Registered Provisional Psychologist, Alberta Certified Teacher, behaviour specialist, and parent. Denise knows firsthand the complexities of navigating a world with a child that has behavioural struggles, a bicultural world, the world of education, and everyday interactions. Her heart extends to young adults and adoptive families as they navigate life’s ups and downs and in between. With a warm, understanding spirit, Denise is dedicated to helping her clients find their way, offering a guiding hand informed by a life rich in experiences that many can relate to.