Childhood Behaviour: Rough and Tumble Play

Sep 14, 2022 | Childhood, Play

Believe it or not, rough and tumble play is actually ok!  Research has shown it is necessary for social awareness, compassion, and cooperation.

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  • Children are more body-based – this is how they learn about their world
  • Other benefits include:
    • Improves motor skills
    • Allows for emotional expression, energy release and tension reduction
    • Teaches social awareness and boundaries
    • Stress hormones go down; Stimulates endorphins and oxytocin (bonding)

So what is the difference between rough and tumble play versus  fighting? Rough and tumble play will always have:

  • Willing participants
  • The children are having fun
  • The children keep returning to the rough and tumble play

If one of the children is not having fun, not a willing participant and there is intention to hurt, then this is not rough and tumble play.

How to support safe rough and tumble play:

  • Ensure that the area is free from objects that can cause injury
  • Is the area large enough to support this type of play?
  • Set rules for the rough and tumble play such as “no hitting” and “no biting”

Written by Denise Stacey

Denise is a Registered Provisional Psychologist whose work is shaped by a rich tapestry of lived and professional experiences—including roles as a teacher, behaviour specialist, parent, and second-generation Canadian. She brings deep empathy to her work with young adults, adoptive families, and individuals facing behavioural or cultural complexities. With warmth and insight, Denise helps clients navigate life’s challenges with greater clarity and confidence, offering guidance that’s both professional and profoundly human.